THE ROLE OF A MAN


THE ROLE OF THE MAN

Gen 2 Now God had planted a garden in the east, in Eden; and there he put the man he had formed…God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it. The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.

God’s Word teaches that His Word is the final authority in all matters. All creation will answer to Him as to how they responded to their positions in the chain of command that He designed for the Church, Government and Family. His design of the family is liken to that of the Church, in their relationship to Him.

There must be a head or leader in the chain of command and God chose the earthly father for that responsibility. While he is the Chief in Command, he also is commanded to be the provider, protector and a humble servant. He is commanded to rule over his family in love and gentleness, remembering that the wife is the weaker vessel emotionally and physically and that he should not provoke his children, by being too harsh. When things go wrong, in the end, it will be the earthly father that will be held responsible. He will have to answer for everyone that God has placed under his authority. This is not a job that is to be taken lightly, nor is it a position that any should covet. For it is a position that will demand much more accountability than any other. If this position is misused or disrespected, pity the person who will be judge for doing so.

If a wife is rebellious, while she will answer to God for her actions, the husband too will answer for what he did not do to help her overcome her rebellion through his wisdom and love. If his children are rebellious or wayward, he will also answer for what he did not do in correcting them and loving them in the way that he was commanded to in the Scriptures.

The family looks to the father for leadership, security, direction and love. According to Eph 5:25-33 the father’s sole purpose is to establish an atmosphere of love. For he is to his family as Christ is to the Church in his chain of command. His leadership must be prompted by love. I Peter 3:7 emphasizes that the husband is to lead his family in knowledge, honor, and spiritual leadership. Properly put….Love Given equals Love Received.

When a man does not properly love his wife the way that he is commanded in scripture, you will more than likely see an attitude of criticism, indifference, unkindness, disapproval and lack of affection on the part of the husband. The natural response of the wife will be to nag, defy, and ultimately be bitter, because she is not receiving the proper nourishment from her husband that God commands him to provide.

Often times people will place blame on the wife for not being the godly wife of Proverbs and say that if she would simply stop nagging the husband he would be a better husband….that is very true, he might! However, the Biblical chain of authority holds the husband responsible first….he is to be Christ to his wife….the wife holds the role of the Church. His role to her is to be the relationship of counsel. I Peter 3:7 instructs him to dwell with her according to knowledge and one of her basic needs in life is direction. Eph 5:27 carriers this thought of problem solving to the responsibility of the husband. Many of her problems will derive from needing proper direction in an area. If he is providing it properly it will alleviate many a problem. If a husband is not utilizing his role as a prayer warrior for his family he will have many, many troubles. Family Battles are won on their knees!

When a man sees his role as God does and understands his part in the family chain and if he is sold out to his role, there is nothing that he cannot accomplish in his home, because he will have done it God's way.

 

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